There are different types of therapies. We will mainly work with the principles of Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT). This therapy has proven to be the most successful in practice.
The reason for the success, is that we do not work with discussion techniques or the like, which you have to use when the argument starts. That often works great once or twice, but very soon the pans are flying through the kitchen again.
With EFT, we assume that everyone has learned to love in the past. If something has gone wrong in that process, it is more difficult to communicate emotions properly and to interpret other people’s emotions properly as well. That causes the negative spiral that everyone is always talking about.
In therapy, you will gain insight into that process. That can be quite confronting, but it also helps you take big steps forward. You learn to correctly interpret your own emotions and those of others. As a result, you will have a better understanding of yourself and each other. The giant escalations will stay away. In fact, will be relearning to love.
This therapy has many advantages over other therapies. For example, we will not look at who is to blame. We also don’t look at who does the most or the least. Any imbalance is certainly discussed, but as a symptom of the problem not the problem itself. And that symptom is improved by the insight described above.
Another advantage is that you can take big steps not only as a couple, but also as a person. As a result, you can expect to be more confident and solid in life. Which in turn has a positive influence on all your relationships with others
